Last week my daughter went to the doctor for a routine sonogram. She was supposed to learn the sex of the baby and was there with her husband and two daughters. The technician discovered problem in the long bones. They suspected the baby was a dwarf. They sent her for a higher level sonogram the next day. More problems showed up. Then they sent her to a hospital on in Queens, on Thursday for a second opinion. They determined that the baby was seriously deformed, including the head. They were unable to determine the sex. Arrangements were made to terminate the pregnancy at a hospital in New York City. The procdure will be done next week. Thankfully she will not have to to endure labor. This whole thing came as a total shock. After some research I learned that there are fatal forms of dwarfism. I never imagined anything like this could happen. I worried about other things especially because by son has a brain injury that could never be explained.
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Posts: 15 09/10/06 08:38 Newcomer |
Dear Grandma Holly, I am so sorry to read of this tragic end to your daughter's pregnancy. Your support will mean so much to her. It must have been so awful for her, there with her family for the scan, to face such heartbreaking news about the baby and to have to make such a painful choice. There are many of us who have gone through similar pain with our daughters, and we can understand alittle of what you must be feeling. It is so horrible to see your child suffering. I will say a prayer for you and your family tonight.
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Posts: 4 09/11/06 07:04 Newcomer |
To Mimi, Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers. The children didn't know about the problem at the time of the sonogram. The little one is almost two. The older is 5 1/2. My daughter later told her the baby is very sick. She was so upset. She later asked if the baby would get better. My daughter told her no. She told my daughter she can grow a new baby. Since then she appears to think the baby will get better. The procedure started today. At least my daughter is not in pain. She has to go back tomorrow. The final stage will be Wednesday.
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Posts: 23 09/11/06 07:15 AHC Board Regular |
I am so sorry for what has happened to your darling daughter and her family. I know this is a very difficult time for all of you, but I am also glad you have found this site. My dd terminated a year ago in August for a similar problem. Unfortunately they were never able to come to a diagnosis despite a lot of tests done after the procedure. Please let us know how we can help you and your family. Everyone here is very supportive and protective.
I am sure you have read throught some of the threads here, and I hope they have been helpful to you. Peace, Love and Hugs  Margaret |
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Posts: 15 09/12/06 06:33 Newcomer |
Dear Grandma Holly, I am thinking of you as you go through these difficult days with your family. When my daughter was pregnant with little Eli we had to go to Kansas last Christmas for the termination as she was 27 weeks pregnant. My husband and I went, as well as our son-in-law and his father. This was their first baby so there were no little ones to explain to except my other daughter's little girl who was 3. As with Granmeg, there was no specific diagnosis, only "multiple cerebral anomalies" discovered very late. My daughter is now pregnant again, due in January, and we are all sitting on "pins and needles" between each ultrasound. So far things look good but they did at this stage last time as well. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Mimi
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Posts: 4 09/12/06 07:10 Newcomer |
I would like to thank everyone for their kind thoughts and support. The procedure will be done tomorrow. To my surprise they are using general anesthesia. Despite this, they don't expect to hold my daughter overnight.
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Posts: 4 09/13/06 06:13 Newcomer |
The procedure was completed today. They started around 11 and by noon my daugter was in recovery. By 2 p.m. she was discharged. When she came home my 5 year old granddaughter thought she had given birth. She took the news pretty well and seems to be at peace knowing that the baby is in heaven.
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Posts: 15 09/13/06 07:34 Newcomer |
I'm glad the procedure is over for your daughter. Last December a doctor told us that the procedure ( labor in our case) was the easy part. That getting on with the rest of your life is more difficult. Yet, atleast now you all can begin the process of trying to heal. As trite as it may sound...the passage of time does help. Your daughter might want to find the on-line community here for additional support. People are very supportive. My daughter has found it to be helpful. Thinking of you and your family. Peace, Mimi
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